Virginity

"Virginity ang pinakamagandang regalo na maibibigay mo sa mapapangasawa mo."

As a girl arriving yet to womanhood, I should agree to this. At first, I did, but am I the only one who thinks that this is getting a bit magnified?

Coming across this principle over and over has made me feel that it is not a principle I could wholly agree with anymore.

Oo, pinakamagandang regalo kasi iba parin yung ligaya na maibibigay mo sa asawa mo, na malaman niya na siya ang nakauna sa'yo. I agree with it. However, should just that itself be a standard to live for?

I've been encountering these discussions in person and social medias (noting the comments). Disappointed I am that every discussion about virginity leads to the principle that women must remain pure for men. 

I feel that the main essence or highlight of gauging a woman's body is perceived as a possession - an offering or a prize.  Kasi 'yang katawan mo ay pag-aalay lamang para sa iba. Na isang premyo 'yang pagiging pure mo. Na ligaya ang maibibigay niyan sa makakakuha sa iyo. At magbigay ligaya lamang sa iba ang tungkulin ng virginity mo.

Hindi rin ba dapat magsilbing isang fulfilment 'yan para sa iyo na natagpo mo na ang para sa'yo para ipagkatiwala yung sarili mo? That you have been able to conserve yourself this far, being able to achieve that it is not necessary to depend your body on a man to make you feel complete, (especially a man who does not serve as your better half) because you already are complete. Sex is just an extension of your entity.

Mas nangingibabaw kasi yung prinsipyo na kailangan mo maging malinis para sa ibang tao kaysa yung dapat mong ingatan ang sarili mo para sa kapakanan mo

Ano nangyare sa 'love yourself before others can love you' ?? :(

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Mali naman din kasing isipin na kapag andyan na yung moment,

'Para sa iyo ang kepay ko! <3 <3 <3'. 'Nak ng pechay, hindi naman po pamigay ang kepay :(

It's just that I think sex is about bond. To tangibly connect. Sex is about uniting a man and a woman's flesh. To become one.